Can't we all just get along?

All right... I made it 2 days in a row.  We'll see how long this lasts.  I figured that since I was starting a new theme to my blog I should change the background too.  That ended up taking much longer than expected... Blogger is much more advanced than it used to be!  LOL  I also want to state for the record that I don't expect to keep up a pace like this once school starts and I've got grading to do every night.  But at least I've got a couple more weeks to post... after that, I may run out of good ideas anyway.  :)

So anyway... back to the point of my blog.  I figured that if I was really going to post about my thoughts on motherhood, I should start first and foremost with the one comment that I continue to think as I read so many other blogs, articles, etc. on parenthood.  (And it PAINS me as a Californian to even use this quote, but...) "Can't we all just get along?"  Every time you turn around someone is stating why they are a better mother than someone else because they either a) stay home with their kids or b) go to work to serve as a role model.  I won't even start on the breast feeding debate... that's a whole blog to itself.  And what really sucks in all of these debates is that people feel so strongly about the way they are doing things that they never realize how much they may be hurting a new mother who would love to make those same life choices and can't.  And that is the case for both sides of the debate.  Since I'm a working mom I expect that if anyone actually reads this they will assume that I will bash all stay-at-home moms because it wasn't the right choice for me and my family.  But I hope that you find that I'm not going to do that.  And it's not because I dream to be a stay-at-home mom and can't for financial reasons.  I could stay home if I wanted to, but I choose not to... I would suck at being a stay-at-home mom and I know it.  But that doesn't mean that I think that women who stay at home are better or worse than I am.  It's just a different choice for their family.  And as long as it's the right choice for their family, then good for them!  But what I absolutely HATE is when people get self-righteous about one side or the other.  We are all MOTHERS!  We all love our kids and there are pros and cons to both choices.  But every family is different (and thank God for that... or else this country and the world would be a pretty boring place to be) and therefore we all have to make different choices in life.  So I just wanted to put that out there in an early blog post to make sure that we are clear that this site isn't for haters.  I'm not here to pick sides or say my way is the best way or anything like that.  I'm just here to state for the record some things that I learned in the first year of motherhood so that if anyone else is feeling the same way I did they hopefully won't feel as if something is wrong with them.  Everyone tells you how perfect motherhood is... they do warn you about the sleep-deprivation, but that's really all they warn you about.  But there's so much more to it and someone needs to talk about it.  So that's what I'm here to do.  Anyway... that's all for today.  Perhaps not the most exciting post... but I needed to put this out there before I moved on to other topics.  Hopefully something a bit more amusing tomorrow.  :)

Other future topics include (I write these down online in case I ever lose the sheet of paper I'm using):
Pregnancy isn't always bliss
Sometimes babies just won't latch on
The thin line between love and hate
Baby schedules (I'm SURE this will be controversial... that is, if anyone actually reads this)